Marriage blues? This is really rather random.

[aide]

I don't know about marriage.  I am really... not anti-marriage but anti-marriage-while-you're-young, kind of.  Maybe I've been listening to too much Dan Savage.  I have to agree, if s/he's "the one" now when you're 24, s/he'll still be "the one" when you're 30 so what's the rush?  I will be the first to admit that I am kind of anti-relationship for all the whining I do about being single.  I am bitter about them because I've never had one (or one that I want to count as one) but I don't think I'm lonely.  Maybe I'm just incapable. 

I felt this way about my career a while back, like being in Japan is holding me back while everyone else is getting started.  I still have 1 more year of school to go so I won't be starting my real teaching career until I'm 26, if I'm lucky enough to get a job right after graduation.  It shouldn't matter, I know, and I'm doing way cooler stuff than other friends of mine but still.

But I feel this way too about my relationship status.  I think I would like to get married, and maybe have kids although I think I might have too many health obsticles to even bother with it.  I think my mom said I would have trouble because I have an RH- blood type?  I don't know.  But there isn't any point fantasizing about that if there's no man (or men?) in my life.  I don't know how to act around married people who aren't my parents age.  What prompted this recent diatribe?  Apparently Mizushima Hiro is getting hitched.  And he's only 1 year older than I am, I just learned.  I think 25 is too young, but then again, this is Japan.  

All the married/engaged people I know:
-- Christina
-- Sumiko (she's also got 2 kids)
-- Katriya? (maybe she's not married but she's got a kid)
-- Kimberley
-- Yuka
-- Lydia
-- Jess
They are all the same age as me except for Lydia.  I wouldn't be surprised if fucking Manuel announced he was getting married.  They're already living together.  I'm really bitter.  And I don't think that is attracting anyone but I can't help it.  Anyway, enough.

Iwatsuki was cool.  The weather was nice.  I took lots of pictures of signage that I need to decipher with the help of a dictionary.  The park was really nice and I saw some really huge graveyards.  Tomorrow I will get up at 9am and go get my hair done.  Tomorrow night we're doing hanami in Ueno Park.  Just waiting for Andrew to make some plans.

Ugh.  Just ignore me.  I'm going to watch Hanadan and try and sleep "early".

Comments

[oviparous.livejournal.com]

i think a lot of wanting to get married young stems from being 'ready', you know? and because of my faith, we're not encouraged to stick around unmarried to each other for too long because we'd be tempted to do it and the temptation alone is a dangerous thing. but that's for me. i think it's also got to do a lot with my fiance, he's been waiting for me to get legal (haha) so i can officially sign the marriage certificate myself, and this is our fifth year together and he's already 28, so most of his friends have been getting married these couple of years, and while married life has its fair share of problems i think he does envy that kind of life, to have someone to go home to and talk to and laugh with. i do, too.

i have a couple of friends my age who are getting married as well, or who are already married. one or two are shotgun, another i'm not close to. it seems to be some sort of a trend recently, i have no idea.

i really don't think you're losing out on anything if you don't have a man in your life. there are so many perks to being single as well, after all. i'd rather you wait and be happy finding the person, rather than just settling for someone who isn't The One. or maybe the person would find you, you'd never know.

i'm glad you got to go to iwatsuki. hehehe. i should be changing my hair colour soon~ will post photos. oh and post photos of the sign!!! hee. since you mentioned it i bet it must be something special or unique. am curious.

enjoy your weekend, dear. i'm going to get some lunch and maybe write fic whoooo.

[maiaide.livejournal.com]

No offence to you, but I almost think that getting married for faith is a crock because people can't be trusted to have sex responsibly. Or they just get married because they want to have sex. Maybe that's just because Catholic schools in Canada have bad reputations and have more teen pregnancies/shot gun weddings than public schools. At least from my stand point. Anyway.

It's just a huge shock that we are suddenly at that age where people are getting married. I kind of thought that was another 5-6 years away. I just found out another old school mate of mine is getting married. -_- Whatever. I bought new shoes today. And got a sexy new haircut. It's not as curly as before, my stylist wasn't there, but looks good and feels good. :D

[oviparous.livejournal.com]

haha i see where you're coming from, no worries. i wouldn't think people get married for 'faith' though - i mean, you've gotta love the person first, right? that's the main reason why there's even a motivation to get married in the first place. if they get married for faith so that they can have sex, then they're getting married for sex, no? i'd have to disagree with people who do that as well.

after i started hanging out with my fiance i've been rather desensitized to weddings because so many of his friends have been getting married in the past year or two. but most of my peers have never been to weddings. hehe. people are getting married younger here because the government gives you a lot of perks if you're married, since our population is aging (we're ranked fifth in the world for aging population) and if you have babies you get a lot of money and all that, so a lot of people are getting married. it's quite scary! this year especially, so many people on 09.09.09.

I BOUGHT NEW SHOES TOO. i wanna do hair ;_; ah it's nice to go back to work after break and have a new haircut ready to show the world~~~

[maiaide.livejournal.com]

Well, obviously they love the person but I think it's more a rash decision than one that's been thought out for a long time. You know what I mean, so I'm just going to shut up about this now. UGH I AM SO WHITE. I need to tan or something.

I'm uploading pictures now! :D

[oviparous.livejournal.com]

i just finished watching door to door and i think you might cry!!!! XD but i won't spoil you. i didn't cry though. i just felt my eyes sting (in the very last part) but no tears. i am so heartless sigh sigh sigh

[maiaide.livejournal.com]

MAN I BAWLED SO MUCH. Esp when mama got her stroke and then in the end, of course. That kind of thing gets me every time. I ended up understanding quite a lot. More than I thought I would? More than I did of Jun's drama when I half watched it on TV. *is proud* We'll watch it again when it comes out subbed.